Acceptance, Blogosphere, Community, Friendship, Group hug, Hermit, Love, Pain, Support
In my ever-growing bloggy network, I’m amazed by the range and number of people that I find – or who find me.
Who knows if in person, we’d be friends? But here, where we share so much of ourselves… in an environment that should by all rights, be cold and impersonal (and is anything but)… where I share things that matter and/or pain me the most… I’ve found a number of wonderful friends.
Unfortunately, there’s been a bit of a disturbance in the force, so to speak.
By that I mean, a number of my blog friends are having a something of a hard time right now. Quite a few, actually.
So this post is a little shout out love to some of the peeps I read regularly – who are currently in dire straits. All of the following could do with a little cheering on from the sidelines.
(If you feel so inclined, leave a message of support on their blogs. I know they’ll appreciate it.)
Clinically Clueless – otherwise known as ‘CC’ – recently had herself admitted to hospital for treatment as she hasn’t been doing so well. CC has survived so much, and she’s still fighting hard.
Dano – lately she’s been struggling a little. But I’m very proud that her art will be included in an exhibition in her local area. Hopefully she posts some pictures!
Chunks of Reality – she’s had a lot of trouble just getting out of bed lately, and has recently gone for a job interview that sounds really great. Good luck, Chunks!
Michelle Tackaberry – aint feeling so hot about her messed up school schedule. There are other paths though, and I’m sure something will turn up soon to help you on the way to writing that book you’d like to finish!
If you should also be on this list – my apologies. In fact, I’m sure this list isn’t complete. Mostly coz of my terrible bullet-hole ridden memory… which ain’t no friend o’ mine.
If there’s one thing my Guru has said that I’ll never, ever forget, it’s this:
No one gets enlightened on their own
Recently, I was discussing with a friend the sultry attractiveness of life as a hermit. In some ways, it’s totally my idea of a good time. However, I do get that community is very important.
And that’s what we have here, in the blogosphere. Community, of a sort.
There are plenty of other blogs I read and comment on from time to time. I consider y’all a part of my lil blog community here, too…
A little message, from me to you
Even when you think you’re on your own. Know that you’re not… (I need to remember this as much as anyone).
Your thoughts of self-hatred, sadness, alienation, pain, sadness, anger, distress, anxiety – and more – plus any positive feelings you might be having… you’re not experiencing these without others who can relate. Who’ve been there too.
Pick a person in the crowd – you’re gonna find that almost everyone has experienced pain, loss, grief of some kind.
None of us are so different than the masses, even when one of those masses in a huge all-wheel drive car, and you’re on a push bike and the dude in the car thinks its a good idea to monster and yell abuse at you for no good reason…
Well, that driver? He too, suffers in some way. And if he could get over his anger, his need to defend against others so much… maybe he’d see he doesn’t need to give a poor ol’ cyclist a hard time. Or be so damn angry in the first place!
This funny old world we live in, where for some, its easier to reach out to complete strangers online than it is to check if your neighbour’s doing okay… all we really crave, each of us, is… Friendship. Love. Acceptance. Support.
To all of my friends: know that you have mine.
and i know that i have yours. while i do not presume to be included in that circle, i felt your embrace. thank you.
Madison Richards said:
Thanks for all your bloggy love! You’re a good friend to others, who obvious cares a great deal about people.
In a bloggy world where so many people are concerned about themselves and what they’re going through, you lead by example, going the other way. Thanks for being you!
Thank you so much for this post, and for mentioning me in it… I’ve felt this way about blogging for quite a long time now… It is really awesome to see it articulated like this!
Thinking of you as well…
p.s. I’m following you on Twitter (auslander71)
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my postings. It makes me feel better to know that my feelings are shared and being read by others. I am exploring the links and blogs that you provide here. All the best.
Svasti, Thank you once again. I appreciate the shout and the kind words and thoughts. I will be checking in with the links you provided. I wish the best for you as well. ~ tricia
Christa at Giggle On said:
I’m sitting here crying as I read this. Something inside told me to head to your blog today. I am in a sea of confusion (as much as I hate to admit it, I am supposed to be a ray of hope and laughs for people) and anxiety. I really just want to crawl in bed today and pull the covers over my head…but I keep going.
God help me.
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I will hold the sentiments close to my heart.
Great post, Svasti–a very good reminder for all of us. I am familiar with some of the people on your list and know of their struggles.
One of the phenomenons that occurred after I went into treatment and started group sessions with other addicts was that I realized that I was not isolated in my feelings of self-hatred, fear, regret, loathing–and after the fog of drugs had lifted, I started *feeling* all of those emotions all at once; it was truly ovewhelming (and this is interesting because I am in the midst of writing a new blog post about those days).
You are so right–pick anyone out in a crowd and that person is going to know what loss is–what pain is, what regret, remorse, and sadness are. Everyone, at some point, has been incredibly sad–likely to the point where it could be considered depression. We are all much more alike than different and it was a great thing for me to realize that I shared with others who belonged to the human race–not that I was separate from them.
Dano MacNamarrah said:
How incredibly kind of you! I am so touched by your generous spirit. I was visiting to thank you for all your support, when I find this!
I was going to write something similar, but if you don’t mind, I’ll just give a link to this post. You have said it better than I could ever hope to.
@darkspark – of course you are included! 🙂
@Madison – if nothing else, reaching out to see that others are going through what we also experience… its beneficial to everyone.
@Victor – thank you, and I’m following you on Twitter back!
@natasha – 🙂
@Andrew – You’re welcome – and someone else who shoulda been on this list by all means.
@tricia – you are welcome. And I do think you’re brave…
@Christa – no one is ‘perma-happy’, or any specific emotion all of the time. Its quite okay to not be ‘up’ all the time, in fact, that’s a ridiculous idea. And totally unsustainable. No need to always ‘keep going’ – its quite okay to stay in bed for the day if that’s what you need!
@Melinda – I’ve done so many ‘personal development’ type things over the years (yes, I know!), while I was still working out what really worked for me (like my yogi path) and yeah, I got to see first hand through some of those experiences that everyone has something they cry about – or wish they *could* cry about.
@Dano – you’re welcome! Link away – I think we can all do with a little reminder every now and then. After all, I wrote this post to remind myself as much as anyone else 🙂
I’m kinda glad to be left off…not because I was forgotten but because things are going okay…not perfect, but okay…which is actually quite unusual for this time of year, when I’ve had a tendency to sink to those depths I know so well…and that’s my point in this comment: when somebody’s freaking out on acid, the best thing to do is to tell him or her “it’s a drug, it’s not your life, it’ll be over in a few hours.” Unfortunately, “a few hours” doesn’t apply to depression, and things aren’t as simple as putting a tab on your tongue, but the principle is the same–it’s not the world, it’s not your life, it’s a bad reaction in your brain, and it will end.
@Jay – of course, you’re never far from my thoughts as you know. And because of that, I do know you’re doing okay right now. And that makes me very happy.
Yeah, depression is a little more complex than a bad trip, although, too many ‘trips’ can lead to poor mental health, for some! Anyways… I know what you mean.
However, saying how you feel will ‘eventually end’ could feel like a very, very long time to some people.
So, in the mean time I just like to spread a lil love around. To anyone who wants it 😉
I am so out of the loop with flu in the last week, but didn’t know so many of my blogging friends were doing poorly.
Thanks for writing this and I will visit and spread a little sunshine.
Wandering Coyote said:
Wow, this is a great post and a great idea! I love that you remind us that we’re not alone…Bloggy friends are just a click away. I really appreciated that. Thanks!
Svasti, this is a fabulous post. Agreeing with Wandering Coyote, I like being reminded that I’m not alone…but also that community is needed. I have a tendency to hermitize and disconnect into my own space. This post was very inspiring and makes me want to connect back in.
And for those who are struggling, I appreciate your ability to bravely put it out there for the rest of us to grow from.
Bobby Revell said:
It’s a great and noble thing to do…helping someone in need. I’ve been that person, just wishing someone would reach out and help, but I was too closed up to reach out myself. I donate quite a bit of time helping struggling addicts trying to get themselves clean. It certainly isn’t always pleasant and doesn’t always help–but sometimes it does. I’ve been the recipient of much support, so I feel inspired to do something.
Great reminder to be kind 🙂
@susan – yeah, there’s a few right now. But given that all of them (I think) are in the northern hemisphere and its winter, that’s probably not helping, is it? Winter’s never a great time, even for people who aren’t coping with mental health issues.
@Wandering Coyote – thank you! I didn’t really mean this to kinda start anything as such (as Dano suggested). More that, when you’re not doing so well, it always helps to have supportive people around,
@lucybar – As yes, the siren call of the hermit life. I deal with it every day. I can easily spend an entire weekend at my place, not leaving the house. Easily. Even when I’m not depressed. Connecting is good, and its what yoga is all about, too.
@Bobby – something I wrote to a friend recently is that right now, one of the reasons I’m looking forward to my Sydney trip (other than you know, being on holidays) is that I’ll be surrounded by people who love me. People who’ll give me a hug any time I want one. I don’t have that as much down here in Melbourne, and it makes a difference.
I think any support we can offer – even if its just dropping by someone’s blog, is fantastic.
Hi I’ve just arrived at your site and the short time that I’ve been here Holosync springs to mind. (meditation)
Have you heard of it?
Pls do yourself a big favour if you haven’t and check it out as it is an awesome tool to defeat depression and move forward into being concious at a rapid rate.
I don’t have enough time to go into detail here. I haven’t yet done a post on it as I am very new to the blogging world.
Just google Holosync and find your way.
Hi, Svasti 🙂
I’m so sorry so many of your blogging friends are going through challenges. I add my prayers that each of them will be full of health, well being, and peace soon.
Svasti, I’ve just stopped by before bed (I’m home for the weekend!) and I’ve seen your generous post … Thank you for including my name … I’m feeling more and more the reality of “bloggy friends” — There have been so many kind and heartfelt notes on my own blogs … Already, after one week in hospital, I begin to feel a shift … More energy, self-changes and supported changes already in the works … I’m in a good place. We’re all in this together … Bless you xo
I’m so behind in visiting you and everyone else, but I’m overwhelmed. Thank you Svasti.
@ribbon – I actually do a lot of meditation. And I have a range of different tools and therapies I work with. But thank you for the thought, and for dropping by!
@Grace – Thanks, perhaps its a winter thing (as most/all are in the northern hemisphere)? Thank you for your kind thoughts!!
@Jaliya – I am so glad that you are starting to feel you are improving. That’s wonderful!
@Immi – any time. Hang in there! Exciting news about your surgery. 🙂