Dad, where do roads end? Is there anywhere that’s really the end of a road?
~Svasti, approx. aged 10
Thus was the nature of my inquiring mind as a child… couldn’t quite conceive of how that all worked, and I guess it’s a rather zen question in some ways, isn’t it?
‘Course, my dad didn’t really have an answer, as it often happens with children and parents, when the child asks just one more question in wonderment of the world we live in and the parent has just absolutely had it… which is why I think all kids should have someone else to ask such questions of, not their parents. Might get better answers that way.
Speaking of things that never end, one of my favourite meditations to do is very simple actually…
Just sitting, watching your breath. Then, asking the following questions (off the top of my head, so not exact) and seeking clarification from within:
Is there an experience of ‘something happening’? Of being somewhere in time and space? Is it something that’s specific to you, or just something that exists? Can you define it? This something that’s happening? Is it personal? Does it have a location? Is it in any way tangible? Meditate on that…
Now, bring your attention to your right hand. Can you feel your skin? Its temperature? Where the air touches your skin? The hairs on the back of your hand? The blood just beneath the surface? The difference in temperature outside, to inside? Do you now feel more sensations in your hand than usual? See if you can spread this up your arm… across your chest… to your other arm… hand… spread it further? Abide in the presence of livingness, and ask yourself, is it limited to just your own skin-bag?
Okay, so that’s kinda paraphrased, but if you give it a go, you’ll get the idea. Its meant to be done without being in a rush, with plenty of time…
So anyway, as an adult (still with child-like questions at times) and a yogini and meditator, I still question the beginnings and the ends of things. And everything in between.
When my last out-breath is mixed with your next in-breath, and the trees inhaling our CO2 and the smoke of recent bushfires and burning houses fill my nostrils… where does one thing end and another begin?
Does it even matter? Perhaps not, but at the very least it matters in the sense of really getting that we’re not alone. That we’re not without. That no road ever really ends…
Well, as long as you’re not dead, that is (and even then, can we say for sure one way or the other, despite what we might believe?). Just take a step in any direction and that’s a new path.
So, tiny version of Svasti from many years ago, the correct answer is… Not really. Roads don’t ever really begin or end.
Neither does anything else. Not really. Things can seem to end, but what is an ending anyway?
We’re on a road to nowhere, come on inside
Taking that ride to nowhere, we’ll take that ride
~Talking Heads, Road to Nowhere
~Svasti
And, as George Harrison sang shortly before his death: “if you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.” And, ultimately, do any of us know where we’re going?
@Jay – You know it!!
Hi Svasti! I think it depends on what aspect of experience one is talking about. Things in the material world end. Some roads do end. My grandparents used to live in a cul-de-sac. But, spiritually speaking, endings are arbitrary. And even though my grandparents are now dead–their physical ending, they still live with me in my heart and memories.
Your little Svasti continues even though you now find yourself in the body of a woman. Her road doesn’t end.
@yogabrooks – see, I’d say that even a cul-de-sac isn’t an end. Depends which way you’re facing. Could be a beginning, too! 😉
Not just spiritually speaking, but physically your grandparents still live on while their flesh and blood descendents are walking around.
Little Svasti… yeah, she’s definitely still around…
This is the third time I’ve been here tonight. I couldn’t put in words just how your post made me feel, but YogaforCynics has summed it up for me.
@tricia – Well, that was mighty decent of Jay, wasn’t it? He’s good like that sometimes. 😉
More to come following this post soon… a lot to come out still, just not a lot of time to write it up just now. Maybe tomorrow!
Ultimately the road doesn’t matter. Know who you are and enjoy the journey… Great post!!
@Michelle (Artscapes) – Thanks! Its true, but at the same time, its liberating to understand that. Which is kinda what this post was about… 🙂
Much congrats to all on the arrival of your niece! Makes my imagination wander to when my brothers and I were all small children… and from there I think of how great it must be to see a sibling have a child of their own. 🙂
Thank you so much for the comment. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one that is rather tired of the game… since then I’ve actually stumbled upon something that I am quite excited about! I intend to blog about it… wow, I wanted to say blog about it today, but uhmm… well, you know how it goes! LOL… I will blog about it eventually-hopefully-soon-orsomething!
@Victor – Thanks! When my sister had the first baby, it was a little strange, but also wonderful. Just wish I was in the position to be having kids myself, but life doesn’t always work out the way we’d like, right?
Glad you’ve found something that makes you feel excited. That’s half the battle, in terms of being able to get back on the merry-go-round… just have to find a merry-go-round you enjoy, is all. Can’t wait to read more about it! 🙂