Stumbling, crumbling pathos of my fears leads the way.
While my zombie-like physical personage cycles, walks and shops.
Trailing behind is my butt-naked Self.
Tenuous acknowledgement it all sorta belongs together is, I believe, what creates the coordinated forward momentum.
They’re only words, you know. Words I choke on, sure. But still just words and I’m the one who gives them meaning, and power.
Yet, what if that ‘meaning-making mechanism’ has fallen so deeply down the well, there’s nary a hope of recovery?
This is how it all becomes intrinsic… sandcastles of sadness, salty tears and the slow wearing down of safe ground… we’re accustomed to believe it’s all inter-related and meaningful.
Stepping off the balcony of that derelict world should be easy. Right?
Sometimes the simplest things are worst.
Imagine wrapping yourself in protection with whatever’s on hand? Mightn’t actually help you at all, but then… it was there at the time. When you needed something, anything, between you and what just happened.
All part of the shock and fright.
Should just be on the periphery but, instead, sheaths you with an invisible force field. Nothing enters or leaves. How else can you stay afloat? Survive?
But time comes, eventually, to dismantle such ramshackle efforts. Create proper foundations, ones that won’t tremble and shiver under the slightest of pressures, real or imagined.
No, it’s not easy. Insinuated as they are, amongst everyday things.
And when you try… when you do… that’s what the heavies are for. Big hitters, they don’t play nice and there’s tricks to be learnt, to slip past and out the door.
They’re just words and letters… three little letters, too…
And then, I get it.
Not saying, is much tougher than speaking freely. Really is. At least, in theory.
Finally, courage arises, and even then, those letters get stuck. They’re literally what I’ve been choking on, after all.
When, finally, they come… its ripping-off-the-band-aid-shock. But then it hurts more again, later. Much more. Time to rest and retreat and regroup.
Afterwards, standing up seems difficult. Sitting is easier, even in a very public place. Just sitting for a while. For as long as I need.
It’d help a lot if I could just puke, perhaps.
Once again, sleep has the answers for now. Just hopefully not crashing out on the couch!
There’s nothing easy about this, the deconstruction of fear. Fillet-o-fish gutted, it’s a clearer place to be, but rather hollow and sad, for now.
Ahhh, Svasti. There’s always hope for recovery. Your ‘meaning making mechanism’ can do it! I honor your hollow and sad moment. Your words are wonderful! Maybe tell that meaning maker that it’s okay to take a break sometimes. It does a good job. But there is some healing that is beyond its capacity to make sense. Be well.
@yogabrooks – I find its not easy to talk about what I’ve just experienced in therapy until later. But I still need to say something… so I write these kinds of posts! Because they allow me to say what I need to say, without really ennunciating everything. If that makes sense?
I love your post, because I feel like that sometimes.
You have such a wonderful way of peeling away all the layers of nonsense to get at the truth of a story. I love it. I’m sorry that you aren’t where you had hoped you’d be, but you’re still moving forward and that’s what counts,.
@yogabrooks – I know what you mean, I’m pretty sure most of the things any of us write… others can relate to. Its the experience of being human! 🙂
@tricia – Well, actually I sort of am where I need to be. But… its just I took a bit of a detour. It was a good thing, though, really.
The Real Gal said:
Yep, I can relate too! Do love the sleep I can get to zone out. Thank you for sharing from you heart! Blessings!
@The Real Gal – You are welcome! If you can relate, I consider a service has been rendered. And that makes me happy 🙂