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What’s better? The safe, well-worn path? Or the exciting trail-blazing one? What about the middle way?
Does the answer depend on where you’re at in your life? I tend to think so…
But what if you can’t choose? What if you’re stumped and there’s no hint as to your next move?
Well, if you’re a geeky dork like me, you make a pros and cons list. Then, if you’re also a visual geeky dork, you make a chart to help you see clearly.
Pretty, isn’t it?
But it doesn’t help.
Is the path with the biggest risk, but most possibilities the best one to take (option 3)? Try my luck? See what happens?
Then, there’s playing it safe (option 1). Will things just work themself out, anyway? What about the risk in not sticking with this option?
Or there’s option 2, somewhere in the middle. Is that a big enough gamble to reap the benefits?
Based on this very brief analysis, its either option 1 or 3…
I’m still very confused. But now, I have a pretty organge graph to represent that confusion.
Then, not choosing at all is a bad place to be. And in effect, chooses for me.
Or, perhaps I’m asking the wrong questions? Considering the wrong options?
Sigh.
~Svasti
Svasti: A Journey From Assault To Wholeness 
I’m geeky too! I love your graph!
I don’t know… in my profession, I am constantly measuring the risk/reward relationship and then selecting the outcome that is most favorable. But that’s numbers, not life. Sometimes, I truly believe that in being still, you will come to “know”. So, I’m not convinced that doing nothing is all bad; at least for a time.
Ultimately, if you are seeking answers, they will come to you.
I’ve found that usually when I am going “geeky” with life decisions, it means I already know the answer in my heart and don’t like it. Look in, you’ll see it, it’ll come.
I agree that it does depend on your current mental state.
If I think back to when I was at my lowest, I made decisions that were so wrong and so destructive to myself and everyone around me, that they were all bad, bad, bad. Even doing nothing was bad, because it meant hiding inside all day, crying, being endlessly inside my mind with my problems, and trying desperately not to try to take my own life (for a third time).
Can you reverse option 3 if you choose it?
Does option 1 really appeal to you – it sounds like it’s about staying where you are in some aspect of your life.
Which one really excites you and fills you with imagination and hope?
I usually don’t go as far as actually doing a graph– but I love yours. 😉
What Immi says is true for me as well– going that geeky (and I do at times, although I didn’t realize it meant I was geeky) means I’ve made my decision and I am a little unsettled about it. I hope whatever path you choose proves to be the right one for you.
Well, without knowing the criteria for your inquiry, and just looking at the graph, the answer is three to mee. Three just looks like there’s so much more going on. More bad points, and even more good points. Exciting.
However, without knowing the specifics (not that you have to share them) I can’t say.
Making a graph does take the gut out of it. Are you thinking gut-in or gut-out? Finding and examining your feelings helps, too (I’m sure you know…).
Good luck!
@shattered – haha, good to know of other geeky types out there! Usually I do “know” what to do, but my mojo in that department has run off without me for now.
@Immi – after the weekend and a chat with a friend, I think you’re right. I do know what I need to do for myself. But I also figured out I’m not ready for it yet. So yeah, there’s some waiting that’s required. Damn friggin limbo-land!
@Amanda – Yeah, there’s no option that’s not reversible. Option 1 is… doing nothing for me, to be honest. But there’s ties that bind. Basically what the graph shows is that no matter what I do, there’s pros and cons.
To be honest, right now, not too much fills me with excitement and hope. But… option 3 provides the most freedom to find that, I think. Then, that could be just my perception, and not reality.
@tricia – hey, I’m just choosing to call myself geeky. Doesn’t mean you have to! 😉
You gals are right. I have made a decision. I’m not entirely happy about it, although I know its in my best interests. Mine, and not anyone else’s, for once in my life! And yeah, also… that I’m just not ready for that change yet. I don’t know when I will be, except to say… soonish
@yogabrooks – Hrmph, yeah. Haha, I think my little graph is just a way of trying to put some distance between myself and my choices. What I need to do and what that means. Frack!
Obviously the answer is, you’re looking at the wrong data! Chart some more?! LOL.